這是一個媽媽、兩個女兒、兩隻狗的故事。這個故事原本要說的是中國父母教養小孩比西方父母高明之處。
然而後來說的卻是激烈的文化衝突、一閃而逝的光榮滋味,以及一個十三歲孩子是如何挫掉虎媽的銳氣的。看完蔡美兒教授的經驗,你將對東西方教育方式的差異有更深的體悟,也將重新思考,什麼才是真正適合孩子的教養之道。
所有的父母都想做對兒女最有利的事。西方父母盡可能尊重子女的個體性,鼓勵他們追求自己真正感興趣的事,提供正面的支持與培育的環境;反之,中國人認為,保護子女的上上之策,就是讓他們為未來做好準備,讓他們看清楚自己能做什麼,讓他們具備技能、好習慣,以及自信,因為這些是別人拿不走的。
虎媽認為,童年就是訓練期。對蘇菲亞和露露來說,這表示要上中文課、練習數學,每天還要練兩、三小時樂器(連出門度假也不間斷,周末時練習時間還要加倍)。然而得到的成果說明了一切:這兩個女孩子都是非常優秀的學生:有禮貌、樂於助人、成績優異;露露贏得康乃狄克州小提琴神童獎,蘇菲亞則十四歲就在卡內基音樂廳登台演奏。
然而在這些成就的背後,卻要付出極大的代價。虎媽在一次練習中,威脅要燒掉蘇菲亞的填充動物玩偶;從露露三歲起,虎媽就對這個任性的小女孩毫不留情,自此兩人的戰況愈演愈烈。然而虎媽對自己的要求和對女兒的要求一樣高,她的犧牲──付出大量時間和精力、甘心忍受傷心痛苦,在在表現出她對女兒深深的愛。
《虎媽的戰歌》顯露出東、西方教養世界觀的衝突,然而歸根究柢,這個故事說的其實是一個母親對兩個女兒所懷抱的希望,以及她心甘情願為投資她們的未來所做的冒險。
本書中譯版《虎媽的戰歌》由天下文化出版。
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